Wander About

  • Amsterdam.

    Finding my feet.

    The anxiety hit me in Halifax. For weeks before I left, people had asked if I was nervous and my answer was always, “not yet”. I was sure that the nerves would come, but I wasn’t sure when. Turns out all it took was a few hours on planes, and a short wait for the final one before I left the country.

    The week leading up to my trip was focused on spending time with my closest friends and family. It was an emotionally affecting week, leaving me feeling very loved and appreciated. To a person, my loved ones were excited for me, though sad to see me gone for an unknown amount of time.

    Now, sitting at an airport bar, drinking a beer and eating a burrito, I began to feel the loss of those treasured connections. Well, maybe not loss, but the reality of the distance over which they would now span. I hadn’t even left the country and it already felt so far.

    Nonetheless, my mind was set. I had done so much work to get to this point, I needed to take the final step. So, I boarded the plane to Amsterdam.

    Arriving in Amsterdam

    I arrived in Amsterdam, exhausted. My flight had departed Halifax at 11:45pm ADT, and arrived in the Netherlands at 10:30am CET. Just a short five and a half hour flight. I managed a couple of hours sleep, but not much more.

    The weather in Amsterdam was as dreary as I felt, doing nothing to help my spirits as I boarded the bus that would take me to my hostel. The ride from the airport into the center of city helped somewhat, piquing my curiosity as I got a taste of what would await me over the next week. Bikes and bike lanes, narrow European streets, endless row houses, greenery, signs in languages I didn’t understand, and Amsterdammers going about their lives.

    I stepped off the bus just in front of the main entrance to the Vondelpark, Amsterdam’s largest park, into which my hostel enjoyed direct access. The StayOkay Vondelpark hostel is a large complex of several buildings connected by covered walkways. One of which, dates to the 1890s and previously housed the Amsterdam Household School, dedicated to improving education and employment opportunities for women. It was on the top floor of this building that I would find my first room (yes, first, more on that later).

    Luckily, my room was ready for me, as it was only about noon. I dropped off my bags and set out to do a little exploring. Though truthfully, what I really wanted to do was pass out on my bunk. So rather than let the jet lag win, I picked a random direction set out. As I meandered through the streets, I couldn’t help but feel a little put out. I couldn’t put my finger on it, but somehow this wasn’t how I thought I would feel. I was tired, sad, and unimpressed with all of the newness that surrounded me. Eventually, I found a bench along a quiet canal and pulled out my journal for some quiet reflection. The conclusion I arrived at, I needed a nap.

    Hunting and Foraging

    After my nap (which I kept to a respectable two hours), it was time to find some food. This is the first problem that I would need to tackle. Before leaving, I had set the goal for myself not to spend more money on food than I did at home. I set this bar at a fairly generous $30CAD per day, which typically included $150 of groceries, with the remainder being spent at restaurants and bars. I knew this would be a challenge, considering the exchange rate for CAD to EUR was sitting at about $1.60 to €1. So, the plan was to buy groceries and cook for myself, as much as possible.

    This would prove to be a problem here, as the hostel did not offer kitchen facilities, opting instead to serve their own expensive-ish food. Despite the convenience, I wouldn’t be dissuaded from my plan and I set out to find a nearby grocery store, Albert Heijn. It was here that I encountered my first roadblock, I don’t speak Dutch.

    English is so ubiquitous in Amsterdam, on ads, signs, spoken, that I hadn’t considered that that wouldn’t carry into the markets. But, with some reasoning, I was able to work out that ‘kip’ was chicken and ‘Italiaanse roerbak’ was a basic prepared Italian salad mix. Pleased with my cleverness, I took my bagged salad and pre-cooked chicken back to the hostel to mix together in one of the collapsible tupperwares that I’d brought.

    It only took a couple of bites to learn that ‘roerbak’ was not salad, like I’d thought. Instead, it was something more like stir fry. My ‘salad’ was made up of mushroom, green onions, raw red onions, and herbs meant for the frying pan. Nonetheless, I soldiered on, mouth burning from the onions, determined not to let my $10 go to waste.

    From that first mistake, things got better. I found a good breakfast routine at the convenience store down the road, fresh fruit, yogurt, maybe a pastry, and a small coffee. I’ve also learned that not all Albert Heijns are the same. There’s one about every 5 or 6 blocks and their offerings for prepared food can vary wildly. But, the upshot is that I’ve been able to enjoy a number of different salads that are legitimately tasty and healthy, quinoa, Italian, couscous, poke bowls. I’m spoiled for choice.

    At this point, a week in, I’m only about $9 above my food budget and I’m not going hungry or yearning for more. Which I’m taking as a win. Though, I also haven’t had a pannenkoeken or stroopwafel yet, so maybe not a huge win.

    (Also, a quick shout-out to my spork, it’s been the MVP of this trip so far.)

    Exploring Amsterdam, Loving Amsterdam

    Though my first take was initially pretty cold towards Amsterdam, it didn’t take long for my heart to melt. With each day I spend here, my appreciation for the city only grows. It’s a fascinating place. Immensely practical, form follows function here, but aesthetics are not forgotten along the way. The streets are well laid out to prioritize bicycle and pedestrian traffic over cars and motor vehicles. In my week here, I haven’t needed to bother with public transit, choosing to explore on foot and bike instead.

    The city is dense, with three and four story row houses dominating basically every street. And yet, the atmosphere doesn’t become oppressive as a concrete jungle of narrow alleys like some other places I’ve been (looking at you Dublin). Even the alleys are charming, filled with plant life and gardens, and heaps of bicycles lining the lane ways. The ground floors of most buildings along roads are populated with every type of business that you can think of, generating the foot traffic that makes even neighborhoods far from the bustling touristy center feel lively. And don’t even get me started on the patios and street seating outside the restaurants and bars, especially along the canals. It’s a dream.

    A quiet dream. Without all of the vehicles that clutter other cities, you can hear the people speaking around you. And they are speaking in every language. I’ve found that you’re as likely to hear French, Spanish, German, English, Italian, as Dutch in Amsterdam. I’m taken to understand that it is a city of transplants, filled with those who came and fell in love with its charms. And I get it.

    Over my days, I’ve explored parks and streets and canals, turning left or right as the whim takes me. I’ve done yoga in the park. I’ve visited the Rijksmuseum. Walked for an hour to attend a free storytelling event hosted by Mezrab, where I made friends with a nice French woman, Chloe, with aspirations in aquaculture and sustainable fishing. And despite the rough start, it’s been a delight. I’m a little sad to be leaving soon, when it feels like I’ve only scratched the surface of this amazing city. But, it’s a big world and there’s a lot to see.

    Hostel Woes

    I knew coming in that living in hostels would be an adjustment to my normal living situation. I’ve lived alone for the majority of my adult life and I’m used to being in control of my environment. So, in preparation for this change in circumstance, I have counseled myself on the need for adaptability. Be like water, fit your container, go with the flow.

    As it turns out, there should be a limit to how adaptable I’m willing to be. My bunk-mate and I got off on the wrong foot right away. After exchanging greetings, he asked if I was American, “No, Canadian. You’re Scottish?”, “No, English.” (Northern English, in my defense. And Western Canadian and American accents are basically indistinguishable, in his.). That was all we had to say to each other for the night.

    The first night was relatively uneventful, but for the fact that my bunk-mate rose fairly early in the morning, maybe 5am or so. Not a problem in and of itself, but his footlocker was stowed beneath my bed, so he was directly next to me while he was rooting around in it for the next ten minutes. Also, he can’t see well, so he turns on the room light. Again, not a big problem, I’m adaptable.

    The next night, things got stranger. As the room is quieting down for sleep, my bunk-mate is sitting on his bed watching his iPad, alternating between giggling and groaning, loud enough that I can hear it through my noise-cancelling headphones. And as he’s sitting cross-legged, every time he shifts, it rocks the entire bunk-bed. He goes on like this from midnight until about 2am when he settles down. Until roughly 4am, when he’s up again and rooting through his footlocker with the light on. Eventually, he’s done and leaves the room, to the collective relief of myself and the 3 other boarders sharing it.

    Unfortunately, he returns an hour later and repeats the process before leaving again. And repeats, once an hour, until 8am. But it’s ok, everyone in this room is adaptable.

    Here, the plot thickens (warning for those readers who may be squeamish about vomit). After a day and evening out exploring, I returned to find that the room’s shared bathroom, now featured a toilet with a thick coating of vomit across the seat and stuck to the bowl. Immediately, my mind jumps to blaming my bunk-mate, as he’s the only one currently in the room. However, I check myself. I have no reason to think that it was him, other than that he had been the one to most recently annoy me. So instead, I head down to reception and ask for someone to come clean it, which they do without complaint. When the cleaners arrive, my bunkmate swears that he had no idea about the vomit (though somewhat suspiciously, when he goes to check it out, he says that he can’t see it, despite it’s bright yellow hue).

    That night, at about 2am, the sounds of vomiting from the bathroom wake me. Aha! So, soon I’ll know who the culprit is. My surprise cannot be overstated when it’s not my bunk-mate that emerges, but the resident of the bottom-bunk across the way from me.

    The night passes, and we have another early morning wake up call. Though, thankfully without repeat appearances. After sleeping in a bit late, I got on with my day of exploration. Again, upon returning later in the day, I found vomit coating the toilet, and no one in the room but my bunk-mate. Deciding to deal with it after a taking a shower (which was in a separate room from the toilet), it turned out that I didn’t need to, as reception had already been informed and sent a cleaner.

    I went to do laundry and returned to find yet another patina of puke gracing the toilet. Now, my bunk-mate and the bottom bunk puker from the previous night were in the room at some point in the intervening period, so it still wasn’t clear who the culprit was.

    It was after the fourth night that things would finally come to a head. The bottom bunk had another late night kneeling session in the water closet. And my bunk-mate performed his early morning routine with lights on full blast. It turns out, this was the bottom bunk’s breaking point, and he went to reception to complain. Reception sent a representative to offer a mild chiding and issue a warning to my bunk-mate, who was, fairly, chastened and left for the remainder of the morning.

    As chance would have it, I was about to head out for my afternoon activity when I overheard the bottom bunk, back at reception complaining. From what I heard, he was transferring rooms. This sounded like a pretty good idea to me, so I jumped on the same train. The desk attendant was very apologetic when I relayed similar concerns as the bottom bunk, though was surprised to hear about bottom bunk’s own nocturnal goings-on. It was from her that I learned that it was bottom bunk that had reported the vomit that had been cleaned up while I was in the shower. And again, my bunk-mate had plead ignorance.

    At any rate, I was offered a bunk in another room, and a complimentary breakfast for my troubles. And thus I learned, adaptability must have its limits.

    As a post script, coincidence again found me walking out of the hostel at a fortuitous moment. I was directly behind my ex-bunk-mate as he trudged down the lane with bag in tow, alleviating my guilt that I had abandoned some other poor souls to sleepless early mornings and unhygienic toilets.

    Bird Corner

    I’ve been going on forever now, so one last thing to wrap things up. A collection of the birds that I saw in my wanderings around Amsterdam.

    Moving On

    I’m leaving Amsterdam tomorrow, bound for the Hague for a couple days before moving on to Rotterdam. After a few shaky first steps, I feel like I’ve got my legs a little more under me and I’m excited to see what comes next.

    And now, I leave you with the legally mandated photo of a windmill required of all visitors to Holland.

  • Where I’m coming from.

    My path towards this journey is not an uncommon one. I find myself in my mid-30s adrift without a meaningful purpose to direct my life. I spent my 20s working to establish my career as a software developer and building a relationship with a partner. But as I entered my 30s, my relationship was coming to an end, and programming was starting to lose the magic that it had held for me in my earlier years. More and more, each year seemed to resemble the one before, familiar patterns and cycles that held me in their sway.

    I suppose the story starts with the COVID pandemic in 2020. Just a few months prior to the initial two week shutdown, my partner and I split. It was largely amicably, thankfully, as we owned a home together, in which we would continue to live in for the next year and a half as we waited for the world to return a bit more to normal. Through this difficult period, we each tried to live our own lives as much as possible, pursuing new relationships and finding hobbies to keep us busy.

    It was during this period that I first began to explore the world around me. It started with long walks on winter nights. The streets, already left vacant by the pandemic, were absolutely desolate in -20°C temperatures. I had the place entirely to myself. I started wandering my community and the surrounding areas. What started as a way to get out of the confines of my house and get some light exercise blossomed into a new wonder as I started to appreciate nature in a way that I never had before. I spent hours finding the nooks and crannies of Fish Creek Provincial Park, beautiful even in its frozen state.

    Eventually, as both winter and the world began to thaw, it was time to start moving on with life. I found a new apartment, in a new part of the city, and had a new world to discover. For the next 4 years, this apartment would be my home base as I expanded my horizons and began to catalogue the various beautiful sights the city had to offer. This renewed a long slumbering interest in photography that had resided in me since I was a teenager and culminated in a small Instagram page where I uploaded my various discoveries, @walkingyyc.

    At the same time that exploring and photography were starting to take on increased prominence in my life, I was developing another hobby that had taken root during the pandemic, drawing. I had doodled on and off for years, and had picked up some of the basics from online courses and videos. But it wasn’t until the pandemic forced us all inside that I had time and space to dedicate to honing my skills. I, again, took to Instagram to document my progress, seeking to capture the learning process (@brandon.lefaivre). I leaned towards pen and paper as my medium initially, before starting to expand to paint and experimenting with pencil. Much of my work leaned into the abstract, starting as simple doodles and growing increasingly complex as I added detail and texture. Over time, my representational skill continued to grow, as I became more confident reflecting reality in my drawings.

    Years passed and eventually the things that had been new and exciting about my city began to become familiar and comfortable. I knew all of the good places and when the best times to be there were. So I put this knowledge to use, along with some new toys. I picked up a Nikon Coolpix P1000 camera, famous for it’s incredible zoom capabilities and began playing my own version of Pokemon Go, photographing birds.

    As I went about filling my life list with new birds, I went further and further afield to find my feathery subjects. Eventually, I was leaving the confines of the city to go set up a tripod on the prairies or in the foothills hoping for a new sight to come along. I began to dream of back/bike-packing throughout the province trying to check off every bird in my copy of Birds of Alberta.

    These escapes filled my weekends, but they didn’t fully inure me from the day to day monotonies of life. The work that I had once found so exciting and interesting, was increasingly becoming a drag. A foray into the world of online dating proved unfruitful, anxiety inducing and depressing. A bleak period of restlessness and dissatisfaction followed. It was in this period that the seed of an idea began to germinate.

    Like most people, I had always daydreamed of leaving everything behind to travel the world. However, unlike many people, I found myself in the fortunate position where I might actually be able to make it happen. With no partner, no children, no property, an established career that I would be able to jump back into, and enough savings to last me a while with some prudent budgeting. On paper, everything looked good. There was only one thing that I would need to do to make it happen. The scariest thing. Decide to do it.

    It took me a couple of months of turning it over in my head. Debating the pros and cons. Wondering what could really come from it. Questioning whether it would prove to be disastrous. Am I suited for that kind of life? Do I have the temperament to deal with the frustrations, anxieties, and insecurities? I still don’t know the answers to those questions. But, I decided there was only one way to find out.

    As may be evident by this point, I’m an overthinker and a planner, despite my protestations for the latter charge. So in January, I gave a full 6 months notice for my plans to leave to my manager. I wound down all of the my existing projects (though some stubbornly persisted right up until the last minute), planned training and continuity sessions for my old projects and maintenance work, and finally said goodbye to my coworkers.

    For the last month, I have been busy preparing for the trip. Planning what to bring, packing up my apartment, and moving everything into storage. But, I’ve also already begun having fun. My sister was married, in Invermere at the beginning of the month, to a wonderful man in a beautiful location (including an arrival of the bride by helicopter!). I got a quick back-country camping trip in with some friends at the Skoki Loop in Banff. And another car-camping trip over a rainy weekend at our friend’s family property near Pigeon Lake, featuring their newly completed and freshly mosaic-ed pizza oven.

    And now, here we are. Less than a week from the beginning of my adventure. I’ve spent the last week with friends and family, enjoying as much of their company as I can before I take my first steps. I have a ticket booked for Amsterdam and accommodations for a week, but after that, the road is wide open. Let’s see where it takes us!

  • This is where it starts.

    I’m going on a trip. I don’t know exactly where, and I don’t know for exactly how long. I’m making it up as I go, but one thing is for certain, and it’s that I’m going on a trip. I have left my job, I will be packing up my belongings and moving them into storage, saying goodbye to my family and friends, strapping on a backpack and going on a trip.

    This website and blog will be the letters that I write for back home. And for the people that I meet along the way that want to keep track of me. As with everything with this trip, I’m not exactly sure how I’ll use it and I expect that it will evolve as I go. For now, I plan to share my experiences, photos, drawings and whatever thoughts that feel worth sharing. So come along with me, let’s see where the road takes us.

    The journey begins August 6th, 2025.